Should People with Multiple Personalities or Dissociative Identity Disorder Be Parents?

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The voices of children raised by a mother who claims to have multiple personalities is barely a whisper. The Psychology Industry is responsible for conducting research and insuring that mental health care is safe and effective but in the instance of multiple personalities, professionally referred to as Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID,  researchers lag way behind in connecting science to this mental malady that remains one of the largest debacles in the industry according to Paul McHugh, M.D.,

former head of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins University, USA. The wheels of research is known to pump out information about mental illnesses rapidly, but is lagging behind on studying the long-term effects of what I refer to as Generation Two meaning the children of parents who suffer from multiple personalities


There is not much published, or scientific studies conducted, about children raised by mothers with multiple personalities, more recently renamed Dissociative Identity Disorder*

which is a mental condition allegedly proceeded by horrific and continued childhood sexual abuse.

Fortunately, someone who calls herself “V” comes to this blog and shares her childhood with a mother who was in treatment for multiple personalities. I am most grateful to her and the wealth of information, insight, and passion she brings.

I remember the total chaos I experienced after being diagnosed with multiple personalities and the months that warped into years locked in a psychiatric hospital trying to remember abuse that I subsequently found did not happen.

I endured daily therapy sessions, spoke to my psychiatrist 7 days a week, was fed a plethora of  psychotropic drugs that made it impossible to think. Most days I needed help to care for myself, to do laundry, feed myself, and in worse times I was unable to get out of bed, or even walk.

In addition to psychotherapy, I attended group therapy, art therapy, music therapy, and movement therapy – sometimes referred to as adjunctive therapies, that offer patients other means of expressing themselves without the pressure of actually having to talk to someone. I went from having a career and a good paying job – to unemployment, dropping out of graduate school, zero income, no family or friends, and destitute. But for being legally  remanded to a mental hospital where I had a warm bed and three meals a day, I would have been homeless while receiving psychotherapy, or I’d have to funnel myself into a state funded facility to  continue trying to remember horrific events so I could get well from debilitating depression.

The constant search for and then reliving my newly acquired abuse memories consumed my energy and focus all day – every day. The psychotherapy was intense and as years of treatment rolled on, I was more convinced that I was a victim of repeated sexual abuse as a child by my parents, aunts and uncles, neighbors, teachers, clergy, and others allegedly interested in destroying me when I was a child. Try to make that your focus and see how your day goes.

My questions and concerns about children raised in homes with constant chaos and unrest asks the broader question of why psychotherapy of this sort needs to  cut patients down to their knees before they can overcome a plethora of physical and emotional illness like depression or addictions?

Back to “what if”: What if I had a child to care for while I was unable to care for myself? How would I have cared for two or three little ones depending on me to make home a safe place? Who would have prepared meals for my son or helped my daughter study for college entrance exams? Would I have been able to attend their athletic or artistic events and be fully present or would I have been home acting out memories of sexual abuse while coloring and watching Saturday morning cartoons? Could I have been a good partner who contributed to my adult relationship, usually marriage? Having been there so to speak, I know I would have failed miserably  at caring for my children and would now have adult-children who grew up while I was searching for memories of abuse that never happened. No amount of love, in my opinion, would ever make up for the injury my children would have suffered because my psychotherapy came first. I am grateful that this is not a scenario I had to face.

No way around it, this is how some treatment for multiple personalities, renamed Dissociative Identity Disorder, therapy works. All focus is on the multiple, or patient, and their needs. It can debilitate an otherwise healthy woman and turned her into a shell of her former self – which was my experience as it was others who were hospitalized at the same time I was.

Being in treatment for multiple personalities, a condition that actually doesn’t exist in my opinion, would have been extremely harmful to my children. My needs would have made it impossible for my children to know me, to trust me, and to have a mother they could depend upon all the time. My spouse may have fallen by the wayside except for the income and insurance coverage he or she would hopefully have provided.

Adult-children of dysfunctional mothers immersed in DID therapy – display child personalities and other types of entities on a regular basis – they have debilitating flashbacks and PTSD and overwhelming anxiety. Is this a stable force in a child’s life? How can a mother in constant psychic pain provide a safe and secure environment for a developing and vulnerable child. I often wonder how mothers with multiple personalities are able to slide under the radar of child protect services. Any other parent with an inability to be attentive or to provide a stable home can easily be scrutinized – but multiples escape this fact of life. Why? How?

“V” described to me that coming home from school and not knowing which personality state her mother would be in. She didn’t knowing which of her mother’s personalities would welcome her home. Her anxiety increased as she walked home hoping a personality that she did not like,or feared, would be facing her as the front door opened. “V” describes coming home to her mother who was curled under the covers of her bed hugging a teddy bear and sucking her thumb while watching “V”s favorite cartoon video? How do children cope with a mother drunk on a daily cocktails of psychotropic drugs? What is the difference between this mother and one who is addicted to heroin? I contend that there is no difference. Both mothers are quite capable of loving their children – yet neither is capable of caring for them.

In homes with a mother believing she has multiple personalities, it is common for the child to take on the role of parent or caregiver. Again, a DID parent (usually the mother) is not unlike an alcoholic or one addicted to drugs in that they are physically there, but emotionally absent. The commenter, “V” I mentioned earlier, says she desperately tried to normalize her home life, but is unable to do so.  She tried to make sense of her mother acting like a little child alter personality and chattering at her in a little girls voice, but no matter how she tried, she couldn’t make sense of her mother’s behavior that sometimes seemed contrived for attention.

In Internet forums, women with multiple personalities complain endlessly about their abusive childhood, yet they are often incapable of recognizing that they are perpetuating abuse to their own children – another generation. Perhaps the inattentiveness is not the same, but the long-term effects of an unstable parent and a home filled with unpredictability and stress can’t be the base for lasting mental health in my opinion.

Women who began therapy to search for memories of childhood sexual abuse in the 1980s-1990s are now somewhere between 50-65 years of age. That makes some of them grandparents. They have not only raised generation-2 under the cloud of Dissociative Identity Disorder, but greatly influenced generation-3 (their grandchildren) who are also left to cope with inadequate parenting.

Where does the chain of generations effected by the multiple personality disorder debacle end? The American Psychiatric Associations need to fess up to making the biggest blunder in the history of psychiatric medicine before people can count on their psychological treatment being based on scientific evidence rather than  the belief system of psychotherapists, clergy, or others.

How many generations of children will be influenced by this sort of potentially harmful psychological treatment that is largely void of science? Since there appears to be no end to the belief in multiple personalities, the number of Mom’s, Dad’s, and children like “V”will be sucked into it will continue albeit under the radar and in underground, secret societies on the Internet.

Generations of children forced to cope with this psychiatric debacle by psychotherapists is likely to be many.


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Is it Time to End Anonymous (and Abusive) Postings on the Internet?


My interest in the article below is because of horrific comments left here by readers who do not share my point of view or opinions. These commentators were vile and threatening to my personal safety so I was forced to open files with both my local law enforcement authorities and the Federal Bureau of Investigation of the United States.

There is a growing trend towards civil discourse on the Internet.  Medscape, Medscape Connect, Psychiatric Times, and other websites and news venues have instituted the ban on anonymous comments and I’ve unwillingly followed suit. My desire to allow free speech on this blog was squashed as people who identified themselves as survivors of childhood sexual abuse ramped up in the comments section  and used this blog for what I determined was hate speech.

These redaction measures will curb the actions of those who hide behind anonymity to threaten and defame others. Tolerating such behavior has ended on this blog. I’m saddened because I prefer free speech, but when my blog became a forum for hate speech, I had decisions to make and I reluctantly choose to leave comments, but to redact them. I think it’s important to leave the redacted comments, however, so readers get a true sense of how people behave when faced with opinions that differ from their personal and world view.

Below are excerpts from a pertinent article:


Is it Time to End Anonymous (and Abusive) Postings on the Internet?

[Note: This article first appeared in a slightly longer form on the Medscape Psychiatry website as Internet Abuse: Time to End Anonymous Postings? The author wishes to thank Bret Stetka, MD, for graciously permitting this posting.]

By Ronald W. Pies, MD | August 16, 2012
…I’m far from alone in perceiving that rudeness has flourished apace in recent years. In a blog (6/15/12) titled, “Dearth of Civility in the Public Square,” commentator Gwen I fill described an online survey by Weber Shandwick and Powell Tate. Sixty-three percent of the 1,000 people surveyed said America has an incivility problem, and 72% believe things have gotten worse in the last few years….Finally, there is the matter of the Internet—that double-edged sword that may be wielded against a brutal dictator, or aimed brutally against a lonely, marginalized classmate. As a psychiatrist who posts blogs on several websites, I have been appalled by the level of anonymous invective on many poorly monitored sites. …People who are able to post anonymously (or pseudonymously) are far more likely to say awful things, sometimes with awful consequences…The abuse extends to hate-filled and inflammatory comments appended to the online versions of newspaper articles — comments that hijack legitimate discussions …and discourage people from participating.In my view, anonymous “flaming” on the Internet is both a symptom and a cause: it is a symptom of a society in which, all too often, “anything goes”; and a contributing cause of further abusive behavior. Declining levels of civility in our culture have encouraged anonymous, “drive by” postings on the Internet; but these postings, in turn, encourage further abusive remarks, in a vicious cycle of reinforcement. Alas, physicians are far from immune to this contagion of incivility, and too often contribute to it.

…For the abusers, maintaining anonymity is merely an excuse to unleash a barrage of insulting or hateful language—cost-free! —it is also cowardly….I am urging that our exchanges be marked by basic respect and civility—and by a willingness to take personal responsibility for what we say and how we say it….

Retrieved 09/03/12  Psychiatric Times blog

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Multiple Personalities & Driving Motor Vehicles

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I believe that people who think they have multiple personalities have no business operating heavy machinery or driving a car or truck. See my post: “Multiples Should Have Driver’s Licenses Revoked”.

Below are quotes about driving published by individuals who believe they possess other personalities, their friends, relatives, spouses and others.

~~~~~~~~~~ updated 07-23-13

In her late 20s came a period of relative stability. With the immensely capable Hayley personality predominant during work hours, Kim was able to hold down a job as a van driver for five years. But one day something must have caused a switch and a disturbed personality called Julie suddenly found herself driving the van. She ploughed straight into a line of parked cars. This led to another mental health section, and a diagnosis of schizophrenia.

Kim Noble: The woman with 100 personalities by Amancy Mitchinson, The Guardian, 09-30-11

retrieved 07-23-13

What if a child alter comes out while driving the car and does not know how to drive?

This was one of our first concerns — after all, the first alter we had any regular contact with was only three years old. We soon understood that each alter has a “job”, an assigned task to perform. Some jobs are somewhat general, others are very specific. Some alters’ jobs will overlap with those of others. They all work together to ensure that the person can function in whatever situation may arise. If the situation requires the ability to drive a car, then only those alters who have that skill are permitted to be active during that time.  07-23-13

What if a child alter comes out while driving the car and does not know how to drive?

This was one of our first concerns — after all, the first alter we had any regular contact with was only three years old. We soon understood that each alter has a “job”, an assigned task to perform. Some jobs are somewhat general, others are very specific. Some alters’ jobs will overlap with those of others. They all work together to ensure that the person can function in whatever situation may arise. If the situation requires the ability to drive a car, then only those alters who have that skill are permitted to be active during that time. retrieved 07-23-13.

Help! My Friend Has Multiple Personalities by James Card


i hit the bumper of a car tonite. i was drifting to a stop going less than 5mph. of course he hopped out and said the last time someone hit him it cost $3k cause his suspension is right under the bumper. !?!?!?! then his wife hops out and she’s just a jerk who keeps  reiterating … my license plate holder left a 16th inch deep screw dent in the bumper.

… and i wanted to say “got it. you’re looking to screw me. message received.” then she wanted to call the
police…. her husband was more sane and kept telling her to get in the car. no police. no
checking. just contact me tomorrow. ..

… i already pay higher insurance cause of sliding on ice last winter. don’t want to call insurance company but
if they try to screw with me i will just take the hit. …

didn’t go to thpy today cause i am beyond trying anymore. waste waste waste. hate self. never going to change. give up trying cause it is just a reminder that i can’t get past this wall. maybe i want the
wall. maybe i want to fail. i don’t know. i don’t care anymore. …

Retrieved 10/27/11. dissociation 10/25/11


Not Guilty by Reason of Insanity: The “I have multiple personalities” defense

Formerly called multiple personality disorder, dissociative identity disorder (DID) is a controversial diagnosis that challenges forensic psychiatrists, other mental health clinicians, legal professionals, the media, and the public. DID cases often present in the criminal justice system rather than in the mental health system, and the illness perplexes experts in both professions.

Individuals may commit criminal acts while in a dissociated state….Defendants occasionally use DID as a basis for pleading not guilty by reason of insanity (NGRI). Controversy over the DID diagnosis has contributed to debates about the disorder’s role in criminal responsibility.

Theoretically, harm by a trusted caregiver forces a child to split off awareness and memory of the trauma to survive in the relationship.

The legal approach used by the defense in cases of NGRI due to DID will be determined by the jurisdiction in which the case is tried. The “Alter-in-control” approach considers the key issue as which “alter” (personality) was in control at the time of the offense and whether he or she met the insanity standard, the “Each-alter” approach considers whether each personality met the insanity standard, and the “Host-alter” approach considers whether the dominant or primary personality met the insanity standard.9

retrieved, 08-07-14 full article dissociative-identity-disorder-no-excuse-for-criminal-activity

Therapists, Take Responsibility for Your Patients

As a follow-up to my essay regarding the revocation of driver’s licenses of multiples, I think it’s time for psychotherapists, psychiatrists, and research psychologists to step up to the plate and take action to ensure that the public remain safe from the potential actions of the unstable patients they create.

I for one, do not want to be driving 75 mph (legal where I live) and unknowingly be surrounded by multiples driving trucks, cars, and other vehicles. Nor do I want to go to a hospital and be treated by a nurse or doctor who claims to have other personalities. I also don’t want to worry about children being cared for by a teacher who may have a serious lapse in judgment that puts a child at risk.

Where are the psychotherapists and psychiatrists who make this diagnosis and then leave patients, families & the general public to deal with the aftermath? Don’t professional health care providers have an ethical responsibility to warn the public? Do we have to remain at risk, be injured, and eventually sue a psychotherapist for negligence or death before it becomes mandatory that multiples be treated properly – as any other mentally incapacitated person?

Society, for example, doesn’t allow severely mentally impaired individuals to operate heavy machinery, we don’t allow them to conduct surgery, and we don’t generally place them in a position of power & trust. An individual claiming to have multiple personalities is no different. Claiming to be co-conscious of other alters, being cooperative or having pacts with other personalities in order to function doesn’t cut it.

Multiples claim that taking such actions would force them back into the closet & do nothing to help them heal and recover from their severe abuse. Perhaps that is a good idea because it would put distance between patients and therapists who are doing more harm than good when they contribute to the general decompensation of their clients.

Let’s get these patients the help they need & protect the public in the meantime.

Why is “do no harm” a subjective concept that can be molded to fit the needs of a caretaker rather than the patient & public?

originally published 12/07/10

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