Should People with Multiple Personalities or Dissociative Identity Disorder Be Parents?

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The voices of children raised by a mother who claims to have multiple personalities is barely a whisper. The Psychology Industry is responsible for conducting research and insuring that mental health care is safe and effective but in the instance of multiple personalities, professionally referred to as Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID,  researchers lag way behind in connecting science to this mental malady that remains one of the largest debacles in the industry according to Paul McHugh, M.D.,

former head of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins University, USA. The wheels of research is known to pump out information about mental illnesses rapidly, but is lagging behind on studying the long-term effects of what I refer to as Generation Two meaning the children of parents who suffer from multiple personalities

 

There is not much published, or scientific studies conducted, about children raised by mothers with multiple personalities, more recently renamed Dissociative Identity Disorder*

which is a mental condition allegedly proceeded by horrific and continued childhood sexual abuse.

Fortunately, someone who calls herself “V” comes to this blog and shares her childhood with a mother who was in treatment for multiple personalities. I am most grateful to her and the wealth of information, insight, and passion she brings.

I remember the total chaos I experienced after being diagnosed with multiple personalities and the months that warped into years locked in a psychiatric hospital trying to remember abuse that I subsequently found did not happen.

I endured daily therapy sessions, spoke to my psychiatrist 7 days a week, was fed a plethora of  psychotropic drugs that made it impossible to think. Most days I needed help to care for myself, to do laundry, feed myself, and in worse times I was unable to get out of bed, or even walk.

In addition to psychotherapy, I attended group therapy, art therapy, music therapy, and movement therapy – sometimes referred to as adjunctive therapies, that offer patients other means of expressing themselves without the pressure of actually having to talk to someone. I went from having a career and a good paying job – to unemployment, dropping out of graduate school, zero income, no family or friends, and destitute. But for being legally  remanded to a mental hospital where I had a warm bed and three meals a day, I would have been homeless while receiving psychotherapy, or I’d have to funnel myself into a state funded facility to  continue trying to remember horrific events so I could get well from debilitating depression.

The constant search for and then reliving my newly acquired abuse memories consumed my energy and focus all day – every day. The psychotherapy was intense and as years of treatment rolled on, I was more convinced that I was a victim of repeated sexual abuse as a child by my parents, aunts and uncles, neighbors, teachers, clergy, and others allegedly interested in destroying me when I was a child. Try to make that your focus and see how your day goes.

My questions and concerns about children raised in homes with constant chaos and unrest asks the broader question of why psychotherapy of this sort needs to  cut patients down to their knees before they can overcome a plethora of physical and emotional illness like depression or addictions?

Back to “what if”: What if I had a child to care for while I was unable to care for myself? How would I have cared for two or three little ones depending on me to make home a safe place? Who would have prepared meals for my son or helped my daughter study for college entrance exams? Would I have been able to attend their athletic or artistic events and be fully present or would I have been home acting out memories of sexual abuse while coloring and watching Saturday morning cartoons? Could I have been a good partner who contributed to my adult relationship, usually marriage? Having been there so to speak, I know I would have failed miserably  at caring for my children and would now have adult-children who grew up while I was searching for memories of abuse that never happened. No amount of love, in my opinion, would ever make up for the injury my children would have suffered because my psychotherapy came first. I am grateful that this is not a scenario I had to face.

No way around it, this is how some treatment for multiple personalities, renamed Dissociative Identity Disorder, therapy works. All focus is on the multiple, or patient, and their needs. It can debilitate an otherwise healthy woman and turned her into a shell of her former self – which was my experience as it was others who were hospitalized at the same time I was.

Being in treatment for multiple personalities, a condition that actually doesn’t exist in my opinion, would have been extremely harmful to my children. My needs would have made it impossible for my children to know me, to trust me, and to have a mother they could depend upon all the time. My spouse may have fallen by the wayside except for the income and insurance coverage he or she would hopefully have provided.

Adult-children of dysfunctional mothers immersed in DID therapy – display child personalities and other types of entities on a regular basis – they have debilitating flashbacks and PTSD and overwhelming anxiety. Is this a stable force in a child’s life? How can a mother in constant psychic pain provide a safe and secure environment for a developing and vulnerable child. I often wonder how mothers with multiple personalities are able to slide under the radar of child protect services. Any other parent with an inability to be attentive or to provide a stable home can easily be scrutinized – but multiples escape this fact of life. Why? How?

“V” described to me that coming home from school and not knowing which personality state her mother would be in. She didn’t knowing which of her mother’s personalities would welcome her home. Her anxiety increased as she walked home hoping a personality that she did not like,or feared, would be facing her as the front door opened. “V” describes coming home to her mother who was curled under the covers of her bed hugging a teddy bear and sucking her thumb while watching “V”s favorite cartoon video? How do children cope with a mother drunk on a daily cocktails of psychotropic drugs? What is the difference between this mother and one who is addicted to heroin? I contend that there is no difference. Both mothers are quite capable of loving their children – yet neither is capable of caring for them.

In homes with a mother believing she has multiple personalities, it is common for the child to take on the role of parent or caregiver. Again, a DID parent (usually the mother) is not unlike an alcoholic or one addicted to drugs in that they are physically there, but emotionally absent. The commenter, “V” I mentioned earlier, says she desperately tried to normalize her home life, but is unable to do so.  She tried to make sense of her mother acting like a little child alter personality and chattering at her in a little girls voice, but no matter how she tried, she couldn’t make sense of her mother’s behavior that sometimes seemed contrived for attention.

In Internet forums, women with multiple personalities complain endlessly about their abusive childhood, yet they are often incapable of recognizing that they are perpetuating abuse to their own children – another generation. Perhaps the inattentiveness is not the same, but the long-term effects of an unstable parent and a home filled with unpredictability and stress can’t be the base for lasting mental health in my opinion.

Women who began therapy to search for memories of childhood sexual abuse in the 1980s-1990s are now somewhere between 50-65 years of age. That makes some of them grandparents. They have not only raised generation-2 under the cloud of Dissociative Identity Disorder, but greatly influenced generation-3 (their grandchildren) who are also left to cope with inadequate parenting.

Where does the chain of generations effected by the multiple personality disorder debacle end? The American Psychiatric Associations need to fess up to making the biggest blunder in the history of psychiatric medicine before people can count on their psychological treatment being based on scientific evidence rather than  the belief system of psychotherapists, clergy, or others.

How many generations of children will be influenced by this sort of potentially harmful psychological treatment that is largely void of science? Since there appears to be no end to the belief in multiple personalities, the number of Mom’s, Dad’s, and children like “V”will be sucked into it will continue albeit under the radar and in underground, secret societies on the Internet.

Generations of children forced to cope with this psychiatric debacle by psychotherapists is likely to be many.

 

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1904: Multiple Personality & Human Individuality, by Sidis & Goodhart

Multiple Personality:

An Experimental Investigation Into the Nature of Human Individuality

ISBN: 978-1-59147-626-9   Publication Date: 1904
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This book looks at multiple personality through the lens of individuality. Each part deals with a specific aspect of multiple personality: personality, double personality, and finally, consciousness and multiple personality. The work of Parts I and III covers a period of eight years. Out of the material accumulated by Dr. Sidis and his collaborators, some experiments and observations of functional psychopathic cases have been utilized in the last part of this volume. The authors note that the case of double personality described in Part II is of great interest and is specially recommended to the reader’s attention. This case was investigated in the Pathological Institute of the New York State Hospitals.

Here is a link to the table of contents http://www.sidis.net/mpcontents.htm

Boris Sidis

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Boris Sidis, Ph.D., M.D. October 12, 1867 – October 24, 1923) was a Ukrainian psychologist, physician, psychiatrist, and philosopher of education. Sidis founded the New York State Psychopathic Institute and the Journal of Abnormal Psychology. Boris Sidis eventually opposed mainstream psychology and Sigmund Freud, and thereby died ostracized.

From Google Books:

S. P. GOODHART, PH.B., M.D. Assistant Professor of Neurology, Columbia University Neurologist to the Montefiore Hospital NEW YORK CITY, USA

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I am finding old, old articles that refer to multiple personalities as “functional psychosis”. Unfortunately, this book is out of print and no longer a print-on-demand. Maybe one of you will get lucky and find it. JB

Updated: 09-15-14.

Directory: Dissociative Identity Disorder & Multiple Personality Blogs, Websites, Support Groups, Forums, & Discussions.

Below are websites written by people who support the existence of multiple personalities & the diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder and related topics such as: dissociation, repressed memories, delayed recall, massive repression, internal family systems, parts therapy, the non-existence of false memory, and related topics.

There is no disrespect intended to people who own these blogs and websites. This list was compiled to encourage readers to seek other opinions on issues and conversations presented on this blog.

The blogs and website owners listed below have the option of making their sites private and/or password protected; many have opted not to do so, therefore making their sites open to interested parties.

This list enables you to learn about the lifestyle, thought processes, and beliefs related to multiple personalities and Dissociative Identity Disorder.

I do not endorse or support any site listed below, nor do I condemn anyone for holding whatever beliefs they choose.

An elementary Internet search using Google groups, Yahoo groups, bing or other search engines will offer you the same information listed below. This list was compiled to offer you a short-cut to your quest for public information related to Dissociative Identity Disorder & multiple personalities.

These websites change constantly and every effort is made to keep it up to date.

22 Faces

2012 The Awakening

Abuse-Survivors – Google group, closed membership

A Canvas of the Minds

A Survivors Thoughts on Life

A Song of Life

A Survivors Thoughts on Life

All Psych, Alejandra Swartz

Alter Meets God the Father

Alternate Sources of Light

Alter Meets God the Father

An Infinite Mind

Ann’s Multiple World of Personality

Answers.Yahoo.com

Apart from Normal

Aspergers the Alien

Basic Information on Dissociative Identity Disorder

Being Emily Living Plural, Now private (update 01/08/13)

Bipolar Disorder – Living with it. No longer blogging (update 01/08/13)

Bongo is Me

Brett Jolly

Buffalopines Blog

Candycan and Co.: Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Chaos and Control

Christ the Healer Ministries

Christian Forums

Clinically Clueless

Coming Out of the Trees

Community: Wizard 

Confessions of a Madwoman

Confessions of a Sex Addict in Recovery

Containing Multitudes 

Coping with Dissociation

Coping with dissociative identity disorder– message board

Cosmopolitan Magazine, United Kingdom

Covenant Warriors Ministries 

Crazy in the Coconut

Daily Strength: Multiple Personality Support Group

Dawn Awakening: Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder in Australia

Delightfully Scattered Thoughts

Dichotomistic logic

DID MPD Info

DID Awareness, Ashley’s Blog (Now private, update 01/08/12)

DID World Map

Discussing Dissociation, Kathy Broady LCSW

Dissociative Disorders

courtesy extended, link removed by request 02-27-13

Dissociative Identity Disorder

Dissociative Identity Disorder Blog moved

Dissociative Identity Disorder and Me, Candycan & Co.

Dissociative Personality Disorder – Everythin you ever wanted to know about it

Don’t Call Me Sybil: Dehumanizing & Demystifying Dissociative Identity Disorder – Holly Gray – now private, update 11-26-13

Downward Spiral into the vortex, renamed 11-23-13 Downward Spiral

DP Self-Help Depersonalization Community

Dissociation Link – Australia

Dr. Deborah  renamed Dr. Deb Psychological Perspectives 11-26-13

Dr. M. Kay  11-23-13  renamed Dissociative Identity Disorder Blog by Kay L. Schlagel

Inside Voices

International Society for the Study of Trauma & Dissociation (ISST-D)

Into the Mind defunct, update 11-23-13.

Ivory Garden

Jeff: Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Jenny Sawlee defunct, updated 11-23-13

Journey of the Broken Pieces: Healing through life with dissociative identity disorder

Just Answer – chat forum

Just Call Me Frank

Kate is Rising

Kim Noble

Leslie’s Illusions

Life, Multiplied: Dissociative Identity Disorder, personified

Life’s a Committee

Life with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Like a Bird on a Wire  –  Private

Live-Natural – discussions

Living Multiple

Living with Bipolar Disorder, DID, and Childhood Abuse

Living Successfully with DID

Lost in a Fog

Lost Shadow Child’s Blog

Lothlorien: Healing Dissociative Identity Disorder

Loving My DID Girls – link may not connect   defunct, update  11-26-13

Loving Someone with DID   defunct  update, 11-26-13

Many Answers – New Zealand

Me, Myself and I – Name change to  Moodswings, Musings & Mania

Memoir of a Redemptive Life

Mental Political Parent,  defunct  update, 11-26-13

Missing in Sight

Moodswings, Musings and Mania

More Heads

Multiple Moments of Me

Multiple Personality – Google Groups

Multiple Personality Disorder Cure, Symptoms, & Information defunct update, 11-26-13

Multiple Voices: Christian Support Group for MPD/DID – renamed Multiple Voices

Multiplicity: The Missing Manual

My Anime List

My Clouds, My Storms & Multiple Personality Disorder

My Hidden Faces

My Thoughs On/In Dissociatiative Identity Disorder

Myriad Musings: A day in the life of a multiple

Neorlan, defunct update, 01-08-13

New Landscape: MPD/DID

News DID/MPD

Nimble Books, defunct, update 01-08-13.

Nothing in My Noggin

Nurse Deborah Wesson

OCD site

Our LIfe with MPD/DID

Pandora’s Project

Pavillion: Voices of Plurality in Action

Peace Pink

Personality Cafe

Protect Your Joys

Psych Central

Raven CV. Brook  defunct update, 11-26-13.

Rehab Info 

Resolving Memories of Childhood Abuse – renamed 11-26-13

Ritual Abuse

Robert Lindsay, Beyond Highbrow

Rose Roars, Child Sexual Abuse Survivor & DID/MPD  

Solene’s Blog  (private)

SIAD Stuck in a Doorway 

Sarah K. Reece, Holding My Childhood to Ransom, poetry, art, writing, mental health, life 

Sarah Tun A Life Examined

Sarah Take (private)

Scattered Pieces – defunct, update 11-23-13.

Science Clarified: Multiple personality disorder  

Seasons Change, and so Have I

Seeing Through Multiple Eyes

Sensuous Amberville

Shades of Ivory

Shadow Light’s Blog

Shape Shifters: Living with Dissociation – defunct update 11-23-13.

Silent Symphony

Six Billion Secrets defunct update 11-23-13.

Social Anxiety Support Forum

Straight Dope – The Straight Dope

Stephanie’s Safehavenl

Stuart Hayashi: BPD Awareness

Stuff Red Said, defunct, update 11-23-13.

Sunshine & Shadows Life with DID

Survivor Forum, defunce update 05/14/12. Try searching Kathy Broady or  www.SuvivorForum.com

Suzy-LivingSucessfully with DID,   renamed Living Successfully  11-23-13

Sybil’s Friend

Tattooed Multiple’s Waffle

The Beehive 27, name change, update 11-23-13,  Between the Minds – The Beehive

The little survivor No longer found, update 01-08-13.

The Multiplicity of Me, Now private, update 01/08/13.

The Natural Recovery Plan

The Orchestra, defunct update, 01/08/13.

The People Behind My Eyes

The Search for Clarity

The Soulful Heart Maps

Third of a Lifetime, Sarah E. Olson

Through My Eyes  defunct update, 11-23-13.

Twenty Two Faces by Judy Byington

Trauma & Dissociation

Trauma to Treasure

Uncommon Forum, name change, 11-23-13  Uncommon Knowledge

Undercoverdid’s Blog

Voices of Glass  defunct, update 11-23-13.

Vwoop Vwoop: Empty Memories

We Are One

What it’s like to live with multiple personality disorder?

What to Do About Me and D.I.D

Web MD 

Wild Minds

Wikipedia

Why Not: dissociative degu?

You Might be a Multiple if …

Zimbio

last update 09-12-14.

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What the Belief in Dissociative Identity Disorder or Multiple Personaltiies Teaches

Learning about dissociation, multiple personalities, alter selves, inner selves or other terminology preferred is intricate but not difficult to determine or understand. I was in this type of therapy and thankfully left.

I suspect that people who get involved in DID do not think indoctrination is a huge aspect of how this therapy works and how it keeps patients/anyone entrenched in it. The word indoctrination is difficult to accept largely because it may seem to indicate that someone nefariously tried to harm another. It may not involve intention to harm, control, or manipulate yet there is an element of trying to help someone change their beliefs about their past.

Of course this therapy indoctrinates/teaches/encourages/suggests that the cause of needing to split off into alter parts is due to extreme trauma – usually childhood sexual abuse.

This is what therapy for multiple personalities and/or dissociative identity disorder teaches (indoctrinates) people to accept and believe:

-that MPD/DID survivors are highly intelligent

-they are creative

– anyone who disagrees or questions the sexual abuse believed to have been endured is wrong and is (or considered) abusive just for not agreeing with DID, denying that the abuse occurred (such as a sibling, cousin, aunt)

– those who dare to question must be eliminated from the DID persons life (usually parents)

– a therapist or support group or Internet forum/message board is used for support and validation

– leaving the family of origin because they may hinder treatment, will not confess to sexual crimes, and are considered abusers and/or pedophiles

– that alter selves hold memories of traumatic events that other alter parts have no memory of

– one must dig up and/or discover additional alter personalities to piece together the past

– having no memory of the past or large chunks of it

– loss of time indicates that something one cannot remember, usually sexual crimes, have occurred

I suspect that people in this therapy would not accept that this is indoctrination and fight to prove my statements false. Remember, I was entrenched in this therapy and believed all the statements listed above.

Secondly, thought reform – occurs as new memories replace previously held beliefs and knowledge, like thinking childhood was normal or happy, with beliefs that severe childhood sexual abuse occurred and is the underlying cause of apparent adult dissociation and inability to function.

The diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder brings with it a subtle replacement of what an individual once knew about their past with an entirely rewritten biography over a period of years. Slowly, treatment erodes what one knows to be true with confabulated and reinvented memories.

When people are entrenched in the slow changing and influence of previously held beliefs they do not realize it is occurring. Nonetheless, it is and does,and will.

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NetworkTherapy.com: A mental health org supporting multiple personalities & Dissociative Identity Disorder, Is this responsible health care?

This organization offers mental health consumers a lot of resources and information. But is it useful and truthful with a track record of restoring patients to good health?

This org supports the existence of multiple personalities referred to as Dissociative Identity Disorder, or DID. When organizations do so, it makes me question their ethics and ability to differentiate between therapies that work vs. questionable therapies with the potential to cause harm – sometimes referred to as pop psychology. Do mental health care providers read research and know how to interpret the results that show time and again that this therapy may be ineffective?

As always, consumers, do your homework. Read about the therapy you are interested in purchasing. Ask questions. Remember, you are buying a service and deserve to be treated with research driven treatment known to produce results in less that the 5-10 years typically needed to weed through treatment for multiple personalities or Dissociative Identity Disorder.

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In the end, you face the consequences of your decisions. Mental health care is not easily investigated as other physical disorders and it’s difficult to know who to believe. Keep reading. Keep asking questions. Listen to your intuition and your gut. Give a dam about what happens to you. You deserve the best and most efficient therapy on the market. Find it, and use it.

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